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Trisomy 13 - Patau Syndrome Prenatal & Newly Diagnosed Support
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Trisomy 13 Stephen born July 1, 2006

Special Information & Support for Families with a Prenatal and Post Natal Diagnosis of Trisomy 13

Immediate  Support

Just diagnosed with a Trisomy child? Are you asking yourself what to do first? Do you want to talk with someone as soon as possible? Please click here.

This website has the largest collection of Trisomy 13 – Patau Syndrome photos and family stories in one place. You’ll find hundreds of support and information resource links. Many of them shared by our community of families also given this diagnosis for their precious child. This website is for those living and who have lived with a child, diagnosed with the genetic profile of Trisomy 13 – Patau Syndrome.

There are many sites on the Internet with information on Chromosome 13, Patau Syndrome and  Trisomy 13.  Some OBGYN Physicians, Perinatologist (medical specialist) and Genetic Doctors give the option of Abortion, Selective/Elective Termination and early Fetal induction (inducing labor early where the baby is unable to survive) for these precious infants...Yes, some of the Trisomy 13 syndrome - embryos, fetuses, infants, babies, and children do not make it full term. However, this site will show you many DO!

Research and fully inform yourself as to whether you want Hospice and Palliative care or the needed medical intervention for your child at their birth. *In all the families we have heard from over the years - not a single one has ever expressed regret over choosing to carry to term so they can meet their child - but we have heard from many who regret missing that opportunity! While researching Patau Syndrome you will read or have already been told:

"NO HOPE"
"Your child will never smile"
"Not compatible with life"
"Inappropriate to treat"
"Incompatible with life"
"Failure to thrive"
"Multiple abnormalities"

"Survivors have profound and severe mental and physical disabilities, they rarely survive"
"Survivors with Patau Syndrome exhibit severe mental retardation and physical disabilities"

This Living with Trisomy 13 site is here to share a DIFFERENT story - Each family tells of the many blessings these Trisomy children bring. We invite you to view our photo albums with children living with Trisomy 13 and read the stories these families share about how they and their children are growing in love. You may contact them as they are here to offer you Support. These are some of the Trisomy 13 - Patau Syndrome Survivors.

Quick Links to Resources Below
 

Meet some of our Trisomy 13 Families who Provide Support 

Laurie-Beth is available for immediate support CA (California PST zone) *82-1-510-744-0512  laurie-beth@LivingWithTrisomy13.org
Registered nurse (RN) with specialties in Labor and Delivery and Neonatal Intensive Care. Perinatal Hospice, Palliative Care Coordinator and Certified Grief Counselor.

Melissa, mom to Bennett-Chadlen Roy, offers her time and support to families facing the many decisions along this trisomy journey. From Prenatal, Living to Grief Resources.

Would you like to join some Internet Online Message Boards? - access the YaHoo message boards affiliated with this Living with Trisomy 13 site
To find other Trisomy Related Internet Online Support Boards and Groups, click here

Trisomy 13 ~ A Printable Handout A Mother's letter to newly diagnosed families by Julie Sexton (Paul's mom)

Josiah's family (phone contact available) does not believe in "compassionate care." That is a term coined to let your child die. We believe in taking care of your child as though we would care for any of our other children. Full Story off their own website-
Annie Farlow ~ Who has the right to judge quality of life?
(website, video, letters of support, and their trisomy journey.)
“We believe that there is insufficient emphasis placed on the vital importance of ethics in hospitals. Society's weakest members have no protection and there is a growing call by physicians to obtain the right to place a unilateral "do not resuscitate" (DNR) order on patients.“

Trisomy 13 Survivors – SOMETIMES MIRACLES HIDE

Are you questioning whether you can handle a child like this? Are you in shock? Elizabeth, mother of 8 children, shares her story, "Encouraging you to take the road less taken"

Contact Elisabeth for support - The Slotkin Family - Elisabeth was counseled to abort her child with Trisomy 13. She chose to carry her baby full term and tells of the blessing she received for the brief time she had their Katie. She is available if you have been recently diagnosed with carrying a Trisomy 13 child. You may call or e-mail her for support. Click here to read the letter by Elisabeth Slotkin.

A father's perspective on having a Trisomy 13 child. Beautiful photos of Katie narrated by her Dad, Steve Slotkin

Amaya Faith Lynch God's plans are always perfect and we know that Amaya's life will be used in a glorious way. We have already seen her make such an impact on so many people...

Luke Steven Prothero We had a whopping 8lbs 5oz boy, 3 days passed term, who showered us with beauty and love for 58 hours and 13 mins, if I could do it over a million times I could ask for no more.

Devon communicates with a little sign, gestures, PECS (Picture Exchange Communication System ie: exchange a picture of a cookie for a cookie. Etc)…and most recently with his newly acquired assistive technology…his Tech Talk (compliments of Noah’s Never Ending Rainbow).

Rebecca's family was not aware of her trisomy 13 translocation diagnosis till she was 11 years old. Because they weren't aware of the diagnosis, this allowed her to have the craniofacial surgery when she was eight-and-a-half months old. A procedure normally not offered to children already diagnosed with Trisomy 13.

Prenatal & Perinatal Loss Resources web site
Inspired by the life of Gabriel, Northern Virginia Midwifery  offers support resources for families experiencing similar losses, be they miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death.
 

Support  & Links for Prenatal Diagnosis of Trisomy 13

Katherine Elizabeth Foundation exists to provide Hope, Support, and Healing to the families that have encountered a negative or fatal prenatal diagnosis through the term of their pregnancy, after birth, or in the event of a pregnancy loss through a miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn death. Liz mom to Katherine was inspired to begin this support Foundation.

Trisomy Oz Prenatal Support A website inspired by the life of Daniel Sean Sheffield. Dedicated to all those with trisomy 13 and similar disorders, whether they be long-term survivors or treasured memories. And to any parent who has ever received a difficult prenatal diagnosis. Trisomy Oz offers global support and is based in Australia. Trisomy Oz is neither 'pro choice' nor 'pro life'. We are pro CURRENT and ACCURATE information. No parent should be asked to make decisions for their unborn child without it.

Fetal Development- 1st, 2nd and 3rd Trimester images -Your infant will develop everything from limbs to vital organs. Week by week the changes are astounding! View to see what's happening with your baby now!

Listen to your BABY - Fetal Doppler Rentals

Be Not Afraid is an online outreach to parents who have received a poor or difficult prenatal diagnosis. The family stories, articles, and links within this site are presented as a resource for those who may have been asked to choose between terminating a pregnancy or continuing on despite the diagnosis. The families faced the same decision and chose not to terminate. By sharing our experiences, we hope to offer encouragement to those who may be afraid to continue on. This site also provides - a message board and resources NEW BeNotAfraid.net BLOG

In 2007, Benotafraid.net  affiliated with Elizabeth Ministry International, a movement of Catholic faithful primarily serving women and their families through the joys, trials, and sorrows of their child-bearing years. As a specialized Elizabeth Ministry affiliate, we continue our mission of offering encouragement, information, and life-affirming support to parents who receive "bad news" about baby through our website outreach. We are very excited about this affiliation and will be looking forward to developing new possibilities to serve families.

Prenatal  Partners for Life - Providing family support, support links and encouragement for expectant parents or new parents of a special needs  child.  There are few things more frightening in life than finding out  your baby may not be healthy. We are parents who have been through similar circumstances and we want to offer our support. We are here to help you, you are not alone!

String of Pearls - Offering Hope for the Journey String of Pearls was created to provide a nurturing and safe place for families as they navigate the path following a fatal prenatal diagnosis that will result in the death of their baby prior to, or shortly after birth.

Pre-Natal Support - Carrying to Term Resources This site in very informative - I highly recommend reading this page if you are recently diagnosed with a Trisomy 13 (Patau Syndrome) child.

Twin Support Are you having twins? One or both diagnosed with Trisomy 13 - Patau Syndrome? Gina, a trisomy 13 diagnosed twin- survived 9 days. She was born with a proboscis and could not breath on her own, having no nose. She also had cyclopia, She liked to be cuddled, and holding her was a pure joy, for she was precious to me and I know she was precious in the sight of God. Inspired by Angle Gina, A Mother’s Heart Ministry Offering support, compassion, encouragement and hope. Have you experienced the death of a young baby or child? Infertility, An Adverse Prenatal Diagnosis? Are you Choosing to continue your pregnancy? Post Abortion Support, healing from the wounds of Abortion. Support Groups.

Ashley's mom Donna is also available for Spina Bifida and Twin phone support.

Carrying to Term When your Baby has a Serious Diagnosis - Resources and Support
http://www.graceannenugent.netfirms.com/resources.html 
http://www.t18moms.com/guests/CarrytoTerm.pdf

Carry to Term with a Negative Prenatal Diagnosis - Coping with Grief, Finding Help, Why Carry to Term?, Common Fears, and message board. Tips on creating your own memorial website

My Child, My Gift: A Positive Response to Serious Prenatal Diagnosis
A well-researched yet easily understandable, positive guide when you need to make sense out of what seems to be senseless.

Baby Center Continuing a Pregnancy with Poor Prenatal Diagnosis - Carrying To Term Tips, Site Links and more, Carrying to Term 101 - A "Must Have" if you are Carrying to Term (brochure)

COMMON PROBLEMS OF BABIES WITH TRISOMY 18 OR 13
Feeding Difficulties
Slow Post Natal Growth
Irritability and Constipation
Low Muscle Tone & Neurological Problems
Common Chronic Illnesses and Problems
Congenital Anomalies
Usual Reported Causes of Death
Long Term Survivor
For the Professional
Recommended Medical Care
FREE ~New Family Package from SOFT

BMJ Helping Doctors make better decisions

The parents' journey: continuing a pregnancy after a diagnosis of Patau's syndrome Clinical Review Louise Locock (19 November 2005)

Keeping the baby; Parents need good support and understanding clinicians in Trisomy 13 and other severe disabilities. Dr Josephine Venn-Treloar, Dr Adrian Treloar (16 December 2005)

For more Informational Articles on Trisomy 13 & Patau Syndrome click here for the Healthcare Professional Page

MISS Foundation ~ Silent Birth, Stillbirth and MISSing Angels Video

SPANISH Support site for Trisomy 18 & 13 Para Padres  ENGLISH translation of Spanish support site for Trisomy 18 & 13 Para Padres (For Fathers)

United Kingdom Support   - Antenatal Results and Choices ARC offers information and support to parents who are:
- Making decisions before, during and after the antenatal testing process
- Told that their unborn baby has an abnormality
- Having to make difficult decisions about continuing the pregnancy
- Having to make difficult decisions about ending the pregnancy

Prenatal & Perinatal Loss Resources
Inspired by the life of Gabriel Northern Virginia Midwifery  offers support resources for families experiencing similar losses, be they miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death.

Birth Plans - Treatment for Trisomy 13 – Patau Syndrome

Birth Plans - AGGRESSIVE TREATMENT - MEDICAL INTERVENTION
TREATING EACH SYMPTOM AS YOU WOULD FOR A TYPICAL CHILD (treat the symptom, not the syndrome)

What is Aggressive Treatment? ~Treating specific individual and specific related issues one at a time.

Josiah's family (phone contact available) does not believe in "compassionate care." That is a term coined to let your child die. We believe in taking care of your child as though we would care for any of our other children. Full Story off their own website-
Trisomy 13 Survivors – SOMETIMES MIRACLES HIDE

Natalia’s family did not know prenatally of her diagnosis. Surprised at birth faced with the choice to allow her to die or aggressively treat - there was no question. “We would treat her the same way we would treat any of our other children, if in a car accident or diagnosed with a serious illness and needed medical intervention. She deserved the same chance at life, her unique life.” Treating each medical symptom, not the syndrome.

Katherine's Birth Plan We made a firm decision to carry our baby to term and keep her alive as long as possible, doing what is medically necessary to treat her various conditions with the end goal of bringing her home alive.

Birth Plan for Samuel Charles Mabeus Our Son was diagnosed with Mosaic Trisomy 13 at approx 18 weeks gestation. As of this day, no abnormalities have been found by our Perinatologist via ultrasound. We want our Son treated aggressively.

-- Birth Plans- Comfort Care – PALLATIVE CARE --

Gemma’s Birth Plan (Gemma’s mom gemmatherese@yahoo.com has compiled many birth plans available on the internet)

Kia’s Birth Plan  Are you in shock, devastated and can't believe this is happening to you ...Not quite sure you are ready to raise a special needs child? Know you are not alone and be not afraid of the unknown. With Courage and Grace you can bring your child to term and lovingly share some precious moments. Many of these children do survive till birth...It is then that you will need to make more decisions. Here you can see how Lorie and Gaymond put together a BirthPlan for the immediate care of Kia at her birth.

Grace Anne's Birth Plan diagnosed prenatally with Trisomy 18 - Edwards Syndrome. Both Patau & Edward Syndrome share the same "incompatible with life" diagnosis. Grace Anne was born by elective C-section and lived for 62 days. We got much more than we ever dreamed.

Trisomy 13 Planning Pages – Making a Birth Plan – Preparing for a Plan of Care Conference
 

Cornerstone Communities of Emmanuels Foundation (EF) offer support, friendships and guidance to families in a pregnancy or with an infant having a rare or difficult medical diagnosis; EF helps families to tap into community resources to meet emotional, spiritual and medical needs in a timely manner.  Building stronger communities, striving together to support families through critical issues, companion parents in their emotional journey and encourage parents to be their child's best advocate.  Cornerstone Communities are more than just EF volunteers helping families; it is network of independent organizations that offer their time and talent to support families in various situations.  EF facilitates Affiliates, Sponsors and also external links to world wide community resources while providing a centralized forum for communication.  

All Things NICU HELPFUL NICU INFORMATION, LINKS, AND EVEN STUDY GUIDES!

Complimentary Nationwide Services & Special moments captured in PHOTOGRAPHY & VIDEOGRAPHY

CaringBridge Free, personalized websites that support and connect loved ones during critical illness, treatment and recovery. A wonderful way to keep your relatives and friends updated of the day to day experience of Living with a Trisomy 13 diagnosed genetic profile, sharing your journey. We can link to your CaringBridge website off your child’s LWT13 album page.

A Butterfly’s Touch - The mission of A Butterfly’s Touch is to share the compassion of Jesus Christ by providing support to parents experiencing infant-loss during their time of need. We accomplish this by providing memory boxes and remembrances for the parents; providing information and support through our free lending library and; helping to lessen financial burdens through a fund to help with funeral and burial expenses.Not Compatible with Life, a diary of keeping Daniel, By Kylie Sheffield - Kylie (mom to Daniel) would love to share her book with you. Please email her for more information.  shefs@aapt.net.au

Prenatal Partners for Life ~ Gifts of Love - Lambs of Life and Luke’s Blankets of Love - These gifts are available FREE of charge, especially for expectant parents who have received an adverse diagnosis.

FREE Gemma's Bears are intended to be a gift of love for babies and families who have been given the difficult diagnosis of Trisomy 13 or 18, both of which are considered by most doctors to be fatal, although some babies can and do survive. It is our hope that through these gifts of love, the parents of these special children will remember that their child, is indeed a precious "Child of God".  To receive your gift of love inspired by Gemma click here.

The American Child Charity Photographers Guild - A non-profit, volunteer based organization of child photographers from all over the country  who have come together to form a guild dedicated to children in need and their families. They include nearly 300 photographers and collectively provide families in need with thousands of fine art portraits, capturing and preserving tender moments of their young lives.

Katherine Elizabeth Foundation  Providing hope,  support, and healing to the families. We'd love to send you a  Bunny.

The mission of A Butterfly’s Touch is to share the compassion of Jesus Christ by providing support to parents experiencing infant-loss during their time of need. We accomplish this by providing memory boxes and remembrances for the parents; providing information and support through our free lending library and; helping to lessen financial burdens through a fund to help with funeral and burial expenses.

Payton's Birthday Bears - A gift of love to honor and celebrate children affected by Trisomy 13 and 18 on their birthday.

Footprints Photography - Provides desperately ill infants and children in their areas with terminal illnesses with complimentary portrait sessions. 

Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep - Infant Bereavement Photography - A nationwide 501 (c)(3) non profit organization.  No fees for the Photography services. The soft, gentle heirloom photographs of these beautiful babies are an important part of the healing process. They allow families to honor and cherish their babies, and share the spirits of their lives.  (See the beautiful photos they did for our treasured memory Gabriel Olson)

Soulumination - celebrates the lives of children facing life threatening illnesses by providing professional photographs—free of charge—of these children and their families. Puget Sound area, Canada, New Jersey, and Oklahoma. We are a small non-profit organization located in Seattle, Washington.

Trisomy 18 Bridge of Hope  Hope, Help, and Information to help you advocate for your child
Get Your Free Action Kit (Please specify that your child has Trisomy 13 so that you don't get the Trisomy 18 book.)

Adoption, Finding Doctors and Other Services
Click here for a referral list of Doctor's/Physician's & Midwives that have worked with our Trisomy Children.

Adoption and Home Schooling Special Kids (NATional Challenged Homeschoolers Associated Network). They have an "arm" called CHASK (CHRISTIAN HOMES AND SPECIAL KIDS) which matches people who have, or are expecting, special needs children they feel unable to care for with Christian families eager to adopt them. Continuing Adoption support newsletter.

CHASK - Christian Homes And Special Kids Adoption Resources - They match parents wanting to care for/adopt special needs babies/children (even if the baby/child has a poor prognosis) with parents/expectant parents needing a home for their child.  call: Birth Parent's Line 1-800-266-9837 Contact CHASK 208-267-6246

Adopt America Network - Connecting families with medically fragile children. For more information please call toll free: 1-800-246-1731

Meet two of our Trisomy 13 children who have been lovingly adopted.
Mollie Faith Havlik and Joey Lane Huddleston Reite

Crisis Pregnancy Support - Support for Single and Unwed mothers
Presbyterians Pro-Life Research, Education and Care, Inc. ...committed to restoring the Church's witness and ministry in response to questions about life.

Other Pro-life sites Helpful Resources for parents who have received a serious prenatal diagnosis.

LIFECALL  Resources for Pregnant Women and Their Babies - NATIONAL CONTACTS Directory of Shelters for Pregnant Women - Through God's Grace, we save babies lives and shelter their young mothers while providing education and ongoing compassionate support services. We further educate young people to make healthy life choices.  We also shelter women who are homeless, sick and elderly and we help them to restore their dignity.

Surgical Procedures and Aggressive Medical Treatment Support for those opting for medical intervention for specific abnormalities.
Cardiac Surgery for Trisomy kids – Hospital List   A Barnes, J.C. Carey, Care of the Infant and Child with Trisomy 18 or Trisomy 13, 2008 (3rd Edition) on page 67, SOFT Surgery Registry lists hospitals were cardiac surgery was done.  You can obtain a copy of this edition of the Care book through Barb. email barbsoft@rochester.com or 1-800-716-SOFT   I believe the book will benefit most families and their docs too. Barb is the President of SOFT Support Organization for Trisomy 18, 13 and Related Disorders

Intensive cardiac management in patients with trisomy 13 or trisomy 18 Am J Med Genet Part A. -*Intensive cardiac management consisting of pharmacological intervention for ductal patency and cardiac surgery was demonstrated to improve survival in patients with trisomy 13 or trisomy 18 in this series. Therefore, we suggest that this approach is a treatment option for cardiac lesions associated with these trisomies. These data are helpful for clinicians and families to consider in the optimal treatment of patients with these trisomies.

Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome: "To Treat or Not to Treat" ARTICLE - CONCLUSION: These results indicate that HLHS can no longer be regarded as a uniformly fatal congenital anomaly. However, due to uncertainty about long-term outcome, discussion with parents should be open, and compassionate care should be presented as a management option until long-term data are available.

Holoprosencephaly (HPE) Support - “If the parent understands what they’re getting into, the risks, and the range of potential problems, I will help them, no matter what. If they want to be aggressive, I will support them, or if they just want palliative care, that is okay as well. Most of the families that see me come because they want treatment. They want to do the most that they can, whatever that most is. I try to help those that choose to go ahead with the pregnancy or those who did not have a prenatal diagnosis.” Dr. Eric Levey, Kennedy Krieger Institute

What is an Omphalocele? The method of delivery will be discussed with you as the time gets closer. The method of delivery is dependent on the size of the omphalocele. If the size is quite large and especially if the liver is involved, the doctor may prefer to do a cesarean section (c-section) to avoid the risk of injury to the liver. Otherwise, the preferred method of delivery is vaginal."

Congenital Heart Information Network - CHIN - To find the particular heart defect that you want information about (as well as stories about the child and specific treatment chosen) then select 'search' on the left column and type in a few words to describe and it will bring up stories, pictures and information pages to choose from.

Vagus Nerve Stimulation (VNS) Therapy – a procedure used to help control seizures that are not controlled by medicine.  VNS is a non-drug treatment option for seizure and epilepsy. Children on this web site who have the VNS 

Prenatal Partners for Life - Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia (CDH) Stories - Survivor Stories and resource links to CDH Support

Real Hope for CDH - Learn about The 92% Survival Rate for CDH Babies Born at Shands

The Parker Reese Foundation - New Hope for Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia. Support for Families, Featured Kids, Gift of Hope, Gift of Comfort, Parker's House, Yahoo Support Group
A non-profit organization.

Melissa Roy, mom to Bennett-Chadlen, has an extensive list of Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia Resources on her ~*MY BABY IS AN ANGEL*~ blogspot.

SLEEPMED Science. Systems. Solutions.
Sleep and EEG diagnostic services and a major provider of therapy devices to sleep patients all over the United State
Additionally, we operate over 20 DigiTrace Ambulatory EEG service centers and partner with dozens of comprehensive epilepsy centers across the nation to provide in-home EEG testing for those patients who have experienced seizures, spells or unexplained neurologic episodes.
 

Pregnancy - Selective & Early Induction - Elective Termination - Abortion - Fetal Reduction - Selective Fetocide - Therapeutic Abortion - Termination for medical reasons - Elective Tx - Interrupt Pregnanc - Prostaglandin Stillbirth - "Saying Goodbye Early"

Post Abortion Help Poor Pre-Natal - A Ray of Hope for Those Suffering Abortion's Aftermath - An invitation to healing from someone who has suffered the loss of a child from abortion due to a poor prenatal diagnosis ~ About Lumina

TERMINATION/ABORTION IMMEDIATE PHONE SUPPORT - Rachels Vineyard  Theresa Burke, PhD, Founder, Executive Director has a toll-free number for IMMEDIATE SUPPORT ( 877 HOPE 4 ME ) and has someone answering the phone at all times. Calling them may be a great source of support and comfort for you. They are available NOW
RETREAT information  Their Healing Retreats are Nationwide and they have a minimal fee, and scholarships $$ for those needing financial assistance.

Feeling pressure to induce early? Selective induction, termination, abortion.
REAL, CONFIDENTIAL, FREE, NON-JUDGMENTAL HELP TO AVOID ABORTION, FROM MANY PLACES:
3,400 confidential and totally free groups to call and go to in the U.S...1,400 outside the U.S. 98 of these in Canada. Free, financial help given to women and families in need. More help given to women, families.
Helping with mortgage payments and more. More help. The $1,950 need has been met! CPCs help women with groceries, clothing, cribs, "safe haven" places.
Help for those whose babies have Down Syndrome, Other Birth Defects. $$ Help Adopting the Babies.

Rachel’s Vineyard - Healing the trauma of Abortion and Termination for medical Reasons This is a wonderful support site and program for those who have had an abortion, and for those who felt pressured to terminate for medical reasons. Support for men

*Youtube Video - Healing from the pain of abortion for men.
Kevin Burke Discusses his book "Redeeming a Father's Heart".
Redeeming A Father’s Heart presents the powerful stories of 10 courageous men with the common desire to present the truth of their abortion experience and the consequences of this life changing decision. These stories are exciting and moving testimonies that journey deep into the heart of male post abortion pain…ultimately revealing the miraculous power of God’s saving power.

LIFE ON THE LINE- Many of our Trisomy families are encouraged to terminate these babies. Rev. Pavone has posted three videos on You Tube in which he demonstrates the most common abortion procedures, using the actual abortion instruments and fetal models. In one video you see the actual babies being examined by a doctor. We ask you to view and to spread far and wide these challenging videos. The links are as follows: YouTube videos
Dismemberment D&E Procedure
Suction Abortion Procedure

A Different Kind of Crisis Pregnancy: When There is “Bad News” About Baby Article
By Monica Rafie, founder and administrator of BeNotAfraid.Net 

Rachel’s Vineyard - Healing the trauma of Abortion and Termination for medical Reasons This is a wonderful support site and program for those who have had an abortion, and for those who felt pressured to terminate for medical reasons. Support for men

Symptoms of Post-Abortion Trauma

Helpful Resources

Forbidden Grief The Unspoken Pain of Abortion - It's time to move beyond the politics of abortion.
For more than 30 years, our nation has argued about abortion. In that time, over 30 million women have had one or more abortions.

While the political battle rages, little has been done to address the emotional needs of those who struggle with feelings of grief, shame, guilt, feeling judged by others. Instead, social taboos stifle discussion of abortion-related feelings. Women are left feeling isolated, and their recovery is inhibited.

Forbidden Grief provides the reader with the most up-to-date research on abortion, and tells the inside story of the fight within the psychiatric community to recognize post-abortion trauma.

Forbidden Grief is a compelling, haunting review of Dr. Theresa Burke's experience in counseling hundreds of women for abortion-related emotional problems. Dr. Burke exposes the obstacles in the way of post-abortion healing, reviews the full range and depth of post-abortion adjustment problems, and illustrates how we can create a more understanding and healing society where women will no longer be required to hide their pain.

Prenatal Partners Second Thoughts Resources, Second Thoughts Stories

Silent No More - Do you regret your abortion? Do you regret your termination? What are the Goals of the Silent No More Awareness Campaign?
Educate the public that abortion is harmful emotionally, physically and spiritually with lasting consequences.

Abortion-Breast Cancer Link (You Tube videos)

Partial Birth Abortion (You Tube videos)

Abortion Breast Cancer - Women were never told about their findings. As of 2006, eight medical organizations recognize that abortion raises a woman's risk for breast cancer, independently of the risk of delaying the birth of a first child (a secondary effect that all experts already acknowledge). An additional medical organization, the Association of American Physicians and Surgeons, issued a statement in 2003 calling on doctors to inform patients about a "highly plausible" relationship between abortion and breast cancer. General counsel for that medical group wrote an article for its journal warning doctors that three women (two Americans, one Australian) successfully sued their abortion providers for neglecting to disclose the risks of breast cancer and emotional harm, although none of the women had developed the disease.

RealChoice  (BLOG) The side of “choice” the American abortion lobby doesn’t want you to see.

Concepts of Truth - Hurting from Abortion? 24/7 Confidential Help – Phone support
National Helpline for Abortion Recovery - Men and Women support

After abortion Life after abortion
: News, opinion, personal experience, resources.

Real Choice - Trisomy 13, 18, & Related Disorders - Links to information and support for parents whose child has been diagnosed with Trisomy abnormality

Fr. Frank Pavone has posted two videos on You Tube in which he demonstrates the most common abortion procedures, using the actual abortion instruments and fetal models. We ask you to view and to spread far and wide these challenging videos. The links are as follows:
Dismemberment D&E Procedure  -  Suction Abortion Procedure

Looking Termination/Abortion/Early Induction in the eye – A Priests for Life Website
Images of Fetal Development - GRAPHIC IMAGES OF ABORTION, Pictures of Aborted Babies, & Videos of Abortion

Exclusive: Twenty Years of Eugenic Abortion at Ontario Catholic Hospital Special Report presents hospital policy document approving the procedure By John-Henry Westen

Genetics - Medical

Congenital Heart Information Network C.H.I.N. is an international organization that provides reliable. information, support services and resources to families of children with congenital heart defects and acquired heart disease, adults with congenital heart defects, and the professionals who work with them.

Clinical Genetics  - Patau Syndrome National Electronic Library for Health Pitfalls to Avoid
*    Confirm diagnosis cytogenetically, do not rely on clinical diagnosis
*    Recurrence risk is significantly increased if there is a translocation which exists in one of the parent, therefore always check the parents chromosomes if the child has a translocation form of trisomy 13
*    Do not rely on rapid FISH results to exclude the diagnosis, always wait for the full culture
*    Never tell parents the child will not survive, 3% of children will survive to six months and a small number are still alive at one year, this may have a significant impact on their decisions about the pregnancy
*    The absence of congenital heart disease does not necessarily improve the prognosis, it is thought that many die due to central apnoea
*    If possible surgery should be avoided until the karyotype is known as this may influence decisions about management. Clinical Genetic  article (Full text -click here)

Rare / Orphan Diseases Patau Syndrome  (Trisomy 13)  Extra copy of Chromosome 13

Trisomy 13 and Ethics – Bioethics – Human Rights

INSTITUTE FOR THE STUDY OF DISABILITY & BIOTHICS - Regent University School of Education
A multinational response to medical and cultural trends impacting people with disabilities.
Breaking News, Newsletters , Important Aspects

Wrong Diagnosis - Misdiagnosed

Families who were given a trisomy 13 genetic profile through testing and/or genetic markers, and later to find out it was a misdiagnosis.
Living Album pages - Alicia Gartner,  Treasured Memory Album pages – Zahra Abdallah

Don't Miss!!


Request your FREE Gemma Bear

Inspired by Gemma
Letters to Darcy
by Tracy Ramos

READ an EXCERPT of this BOOK
Prenatal Diagnosis Information Package - Compiled by Kylie Sheffield (mum of Daniel, full Trisomy 13) in consultation with families on this web site

The Living with Trisomy 13 community encourages prental diagnosis families to reach out to this wonderful  organization Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep  that will help you capture the very precious time you will have with your child.


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Parents experiences with infant loss and receiving
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4 Things you'd like to tell your Neotalogist and Professionals caring for your Patau Syndrome Child By Jill, mom to Alegria
Baby Jules Congenital Disorders Policy SUMMARY & PURPOSE:
The purpose of this policy is to facilitate a plan of care prior to the birth of infants
with complex congenital disorders.
WHAT TESTS SHOULD BE DONE ONCE MY CHILD IS DIAGNOSED WITH TRISOMY 13?
By Christine Nelson MD, Pediatric Hospitalist
*Be Aware* Preeclampsia can develop with Patau Syndrome

LWT13 families who experienced Preeclampsia
Preeclampsia Foundation
Meet and talk to families who’ve experienced having a child with Trisomy 13 ~ Patau Syndrome.
LWT13 message boards.
Prenatal Diagnosis Information Package - Compiled by Kylie Sheffield (mum of Daniel, full Trisomy 13) in consultation with families on this web site
Creating Priceless Memories and Keepsakes with your Baby
By Becca Bouligny
Letters to Darcy by Tracy Ramos
READ an EXCERPT of this BOOK
Hope for Trisomy 13 and 18
What is Informed Consent? This video explains the ethics and requirements for informed consent for treatment that every parent should fully understand prior to accepting treatment or declining treatment. Management of Neonates with Trisomy Syndromes
FREE Gemma's Bears a small gift of love for families whose babies are newly diagnosed either prenatally or after birth with trisomy 13 & 18.
FREE Complimenary Gifts helping you to create precious moments
- infant bereavement photography, memory bracelets, blankets, bears etc.
HEALING THE HEARTBREAK THE POWER OF BABY PHOTOS

Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep - NBC's Today Show - 2008-03-05
Feeling pressure to induce early? Selective induction, termination, abortion. REAL, CONFIDENTIAL, FREE, NON-JUDGMENTAL HELP TO AVOID ABORTION, FROM MANY PLACES: 3,400 confidential and totally free groups to call and go to in the U.S...1,400 outside the U.S. 98 of these in Canada. Free, financial help given to women and families in need. More help given to women, families. Helping with mortgage payments, groceries, clothing, cribs, "safe haven" places. Help for those whose babies have Down Syndrome, Other Birth Defects. $$ Help Adopting the Babies.
Not Compatible with Life, a diary of keeping Daniel
By Kylie Sheffield
Kylie (mom to Daniel) would love to share her book with you. Please email her for more information.  shefs@aapt.net.au
Click here for Doctor, Physician & Midwife referrals
Perinatal hospice / palliative care programs and services

Many of our albums have informative and moving Videos & Presentations

Lethal Language Lethal Decisions
By Tracy K. Koogler, Benjamin S. Wilfond, and Lainie Friedman Ross
“Although many of the congenital syndromes that used to be lethal no longer are, they are still routinely referred to as “lethal anomalies.” But the label is not only inaccurate, it is also dangerous: by portraying as a medical determination what is in fact a judgment about the child’s quality of life, it wrests from the parents a decision that only the parents can make.” © The Hastings Center. Reprinted with permission. This article originally appeared in the Hastings Center Report, vol. 33, no. 2 (2003),” Editorial email: editorial@thehastingscenter.org.

Why would a good God allow these type of things to happen? Click here to listen to Larry's message about his son. (In Audio) Larry Preaches on God's Sovereignty in light of His son's death

SHORT QUOTES from our Albums
"Mitchell is really just a typical boy who likes to play and have fun just like any other child. I want medical professionals and healthcare providers to look at his video and learn that his life is worth saving. Our doctors have been incredible. They are so supportive and have always been cautiously optimistic about Mitchell, it makes a world of difference."

~Katie – Mom to Mitchell

"I'm almost past sad, I'm so very happy that God picked us to treasure this gift.  And although I have gone through all those periods of grief, I would pick having her for that brief period in time to not having her at all!  When I look at the slideshow, I see so much love and it reminds me so much of those precious 17 hours and is very rewarding...  she is so much a part of me and I can't help but share her precious little soul!"

-Lorie - Mom to Angel Kia

"Sadly...Many of the medical and professional community are woefully uninformed about Trisomy 13. Outdated statistics and misinformation cause so much hopelessness...and also cause many to withhold life giving treatment to a child who deserves the same chance any typical kid would receive."

- Penny, Devon's mom

"My daughter had Trisomy 13...a disorder they said was not compatible with life. I was then asked to decide if I wanted to continue my pregnancy or terminate it. I was not willing to give up on my daughter, a decision the perinatologist made clear they thought was the wrong one...If Caileigh was to die it wasn't going to be because of me....Caileigh is the greatest gift I have ever been granted in life and I carry her with me everywhere I go and in everything I do."

-Jackie, mom to Caileigh

"The joy far outweighs the struggles. I don't know of anyone that wishes they had aborted their baby, but I have talked to several who wish they had not."

-Anne Jackson

"God's gifts are never what we expect. The trick is not to be confused by the wrapping paper, but to be sure to open the box."

- Paul - Dad to Angel Kelli

"I hope that the increasing images of living children with Trisomy 13 will wipe out the words 'incompatible with life.'"

- Jenn - Mom to Angel Kalysta

"To any of you, that may come across a parent about to raise a Trisomy 13, let them; encourage them, give them hope and peace that they will be blessed with the endurance to handle such a special child. And could quite possibly be their "favorite" for every reason."

-Barry & Deidri Alderson

"If you are reading this and your heart is breaking with the news that your child has Trisomy 13, please never give up on your child you never know what God will do, and you don't know how strong your little one will be... So if you are reading this and you have no hope please find hope and comfort in knowing, God is bigger than anything, and He's got things under control.”

~ Danielle - Mom to Ivey

"Thank you very much for your site. As a Labor and Delivery Nurse, I have been frequenting it often for information.
I wish people had access to your site prior to make the decision to terminate. Blood tests are accurate, however, Ultrasounds only show so much, and you'd be amazed how often they are wrong.
As a L&D Nurse I thank all the families who carry their babies to term. You'd be amazed how every delivery touches the life of your nurse."   Anonymous
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Make yourself familiar with the angels,
 and behold them frequently in spirit:
 for without being seen,
they are present with you.  
~St. Francis De  Sales
 

 

 

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All material on this site reflects our personal journey with raising a Trisomy 13 (Patau Syndrome) - child. It is not meant to replace any medical advise of a professional familiar with your specific condition. The personal journeys of any parents on this site are only their opinions and their own journey with having a Trisomy 13 child. You should consult with your own physician or other medical professional regarding the opinions or recommendations expressed within these pages as to your own child's symptoms and medical condition.
 
 

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